Wel, to tell the truth, it is another wedding. This time it's Saleh's cousin's wedding. It was glorious since he is the only boy in the family and a first born at it. I was a bit shy to begin with, to go all the way to Saleh's relative's house and stay there for 3 days. Weddings as you know will be filled with aunties and uncles and granmas and granpas, so basically people will ask, who are you? Thank God that each time, Saleh's eldest aunt will save me by explaining it herself. I feel downright grateful and proud myself that my social standing isn't some-what low and degrading to be introduced to others. Well, it is more of grateful .Thx mak and abah :D
I feel like I am doted at his family's house. Every few minutes some 'makcik' will ask, where is Oya? Has she eaten? To tell the truth, I am always delightful when it comes to meals and delicacies. Whatever they cook and do I would want to ask how do you do that. I did not do this at home basically no one cooks that much apart from The Maid, which is almost an eyesore to me nowadays. Or when mak cooks, she likes to do it alone and it is almost not systematic. I feel like interfering if I tried to help, instead I did the chores of going to get curry leaves, coconut milk or coriander leaves. In Serting, Mak Long asked me to cook cekodok for Saleh, hmn, it is embarrassing cuz I have to do it for my future hubby, and people around are looking my actions. It doesn't matter because what mettered that time, my cekodok should turn right!. Well it did turn right, I got a compliment from Mak Long (peace! :D). I felt that it is almost like a test! Maybe it is, but I feel good about it.
One thing I felt not right is about MakSu. I feel that she is not comfortable with her family-in-laws. I asked Saleh about it, I turned to be correct about my feelings, she did have a history. It started about the way she cooks some squid during family gathering. She was just married into the family and she cooks the squid piece by piece. You know about gatherings, they need food fast couse they get hungry fast. So I guess one of the aunties criticize her about it (either in a funny way or serious way). She got sensitive about it and it was never the same since. I think if it happens to me, I would not be hurt by it. Not that the aunties never criticise me before, they did, but i think they are sincere with it and I consider it as a lesson to learn to cook or anything. I'll turn it into a joke and make people laugh instead. I wonder if I face greater challenge?
Aprt from being doted by them, I became the sis to rely on by the cousins. If they need advice, they come to me. I don't tend to scare them with critism or scoldings...I guess that's the teacher instinct i me, instead I listened and did what my counselors did to me. It is NOTHING much, honest. But it gave them powerful impact I guess. The downside, the litle ones always asks me to bring them 'jalan-jalan'. This is the effect of being too nice.
In conclusion, I have decided, I will protect my relationship with Saleh at all cost, not just because I love him (that was the reason before) but now I love him more and I love his family too. I don;t get this very much because of the divorce and remarrying thingy. So the feeling is not the same. Somethings almost like get-ups during the festival. Oh, so what, I have something good upcoming when I get into Saleh's family :D
